Everybody wants to be successful, and nobody likes to fail. Many people hide their failures and setbacks of life. They are conditioned to cover up failures and inadvertently adapted to act this way. Society and media glorify the success, and nobody around you seems to be tolerant about the failure.
Ours is not a culture that approves the failure even if it may have the potentials to teach the crucial lessons. You gradually learn to hide your true face, cover up your insecurities, and hide your problems of life as you are afraid of attracting derision and embarrassment.
You show the best version of yourself socially but hide the real self. Hefty packages and swanky cars are well flaunted, while a few downfalls in academics, career, and marriage are enough to press the panic button. It makes you hide in the shell and gets you socially disconnected.
Everybody likes to brag about the seven-figure salary, but nobody talks about the last layoff. Everybody likes the idea of a big fat destination wedding, but nobody talks about the marital brawl once the novelty wears off and reality sets in.
It’s not your fault alone. The society is tuned this way. We live in a society that doesn’t appreciate failure. It’s frowned upon, it’s derided, it makes you hide the ‘real you’. The cultural influence and peer pressure have taught you to show merely the positives. You are inherently wired to crave the acceptance and try to fit in. You have been conditioned to act the way you act.
And, here the real problem starts with this phenomenon. You always play safe, you kill your creativity in order to remain “successful”. You stop taking risks in career and life. You are repeatedly paranoid. You only want to survive and somehow fit-in to the popular version of success.
You are never encouraged to become ambitious due to fear of failure. You invariably tend to accept the mediocrity without realizing your true potential and continue to live an inferior life.
I have failed multiple times in my life when my life was turned upside down. I learned more from a failure than anything else. It eventually helped me overcome my fears. As it turns out, all the successes are built upon the pillars of failures and frustration.
I got wiser every time I faced failure and the quality of my decisions drastically improved. Failure enriches your character and reinforces you to bounce back again.
Everyone makes a mistake and fails in life at one point or another, it’s nothing to be ashamed of. The moment you take responsibility for a mistake and failure, you start improving your weaknesses.
On the other hand, you stifle your growth when you don’t take ownership of your failure and blame everything and everyone but yourself. It’s your attitude and an ability to learn from a failure that determines the level of your success.
Nothing makes a person wiser and more productive than a hard failure. If you take the risk and run towards your fear, your virtual fear of failure vanishes. You need to come to terms with struggle, discomfort and deep imperfection in the process of learning anything and working towards your goal. That is the only way to succeed.
Wear your failures like a badge of honor. Successful people fail a lot. They fail a whole lot more than they succeed. Failure is a massive part of being able to be successful. Our greatest glory is not in never failing, but in rising every time we fail. Be ready to fail often and fall flat on your face, you can reach the greatest heights !!