Everyone seems to have an opinion on how the government should function, how a political party should work, or how everyone should live or behave. These opinions are mostly the result of unmet expectations. An expectation of some kind that is unfulfilled or unmet, people tend to form a negative opinion on something or somebody. Everyone lives by their own rule which turns out to be counter-intuitive to some folks, thereby making them form an opinion or label someone.
The fact is that you don’t have control over externalities like the Economy, Government policies, Corruption, or other people’s behavior or thinking. Regardless of what you think of these issues, the only thing you can change or control is yourself. It is your views that need continuous remediation. Its a sheer waste of time fretting on things beyond your control.
Not necessarily everyone around you will agree with your opinions. You can’t impose your opinions on anyone if theirs don’t resonate with you. Everyone is a unique individual with a distinct perspective on life. The same goes for your friends, relatives, or colleagues. Why form an opinion which nobody cares. All people are wired differently. Everyone has a fair idea of how to live their lives and what makes them happy.
You can be at the receiving end of opinions and judgments as well. Everyone you meet will judge you on a thing or two. You don’t need to seek validation from them. Trying to live up to everyone’s opinion is a recipe for disaster. You can lead your life true to your life’s values instead. You don’t owe anyone an explanation as long as you cause no harm to anyone.
People tend to have arguments over things like political news, regional matters, language or cultural differences. How does it matter in your life? Your opinion is not going to change anything in this world. Such pointless discussions yield no results in your life. You don’t have to be the first to engage in every media frenzy or social media opinion. And, if it really matters, then you must put your opinions into ACTION.
The problem with the opinion maker is that they are big on talking, but zero on taking actions. They are not the “Doers”. They are mere spectators. Their general tendency is to go big on words, and do nothing on the delivery part. You are examined based on what you have delivered, not what you have claimed.
It is a fact that people judge you through your behavior. A major reason why many people can stop trusting you if they find a disconnect between your actions and opinions. People can easily discern through your behavior. Even a slight disconnect between your action and words greatly diminishes the impact you have on others and put a dent on your authenticity. Your opinion doesn’t matter to anyone unless you walk your talk and lead by example.
Instead of getting into an opinion paralysis, the ideal way is to have a dialogue or debate on the thing if it bothers you. That is the practical way of communicating with others. Positive debates can only lead to mutually beneficial conclusions. Simply stating an opinion is pointless and unproductive. Your opinion doesn’t solve the problem. Your actions and support will. Ideas and opinions are shit, execution is the game.
It doesn’t move the needle by just talking around and passing opinions on everything you encounter. No one likes an opinion maker, unless you decide to put yourself in their shoes. It is appreciated if you can take some actions and make a difference, rather than passing comments. We live in a society obsessed with public opinion, but leadership has never been about popularity. The world is changed by your example, not by your opinion !!